Poly Momma

How to begin?

The blank page before me reflects the future ahead of me. Unwritten, exciting, anticipatory.

I suppose I ought to begin by saying why I felt the need to start a THIRD blog. I’ve already been writing in Skeptopia and McRaeInTheOven for a while. Those two, neglected as they are, are still technically active. But I felt that there are now things I want to write about that cannot be included in either one. Skeptopia isn’t really the right forum to discuss my love life and McRaeInTheOven was more about my life pre-baby than about my life with my baby. And so,  I have created a new place to write about my experiences as a polyamorous mother.

I’ll begin now.

I’ve got two new boys in my life. One, I’ve been seeing since November. He’s a tiny, blond, blue-eyed cutie who I met when he moved out of my body. Yep, he’s my son. After the easiest pregnancy in the history of pregnancies and a very easy, natural birth, my son has proven to be almost as easy outside as he was inside. Every day he is growing. In the last week, he’s gotten so good at rolling over that I am overwhelmed with pride. It took him so long to learn that simple skill, but now it seems he’s mastered it, taking only a couple of seconds to go from back to belly.

The other boy is my new secondary. We met on OkCupid and only had our first date two weeks ago. To be honest, I only decided to meet him in person because we were a 95% match but he seemed kind of boring. I didn’t think I’d be upset if he wasn’t into me. After all, he’s younger than me and super, super cute. Well, on that first date he ended up not only meeting all of my nerdy gamer friends (they were having a meetup at the same restaurant where we had our date – oops) but he volunteered to come with me to meet my husband and son.  As it turned out, we had a lot in common. I didn’t have to fake any interests, I could totally be myself. He was genuine, positive and funny, and he got my sense of humour. He got along with my friends and he made a great impression on my husband. He even loves babies!

I was ready for disappointment with my New Boy. I don’t know if it was lowered expectations or if things were just that good, but after a few dates, I found out that we really clicked. Physically as well as mentally.  I still can’t believe my luck. I’m not ashamed to say I’ve had enough partners to know how rare it is for everything to go this well.

I don’t get into relationships to complete myself, but if I was going to have a secondary partner, he needed to offer something different in my life. At first, I thought it would be our shared interests in the arts and someone to go out dancing with. I figured, even if the physical chemistry wasn’t there, I’d still want to keep seeing him. But now, whoah. I feel like I’m in love. And he feels the same way. The NRE is flowing and I’m on a cloud. And I cannot WAIT until our next date.